if i stop and think about it for a moment
i could see that you are all maybe right? i actually did thwart this the first time in 2009...i have posts dating back to then

but within 2 months he was back and we were going to make everything work
and we did make strides
before he left this last time, my h said that it had been better
just not fast enough or better enough

and about 6 months after he returned that first time, i know i was unhappy again
i could see the signs that it was not changing all that much

and this is where i beat me up
because maybe i could have done things differently
well of course i could have
and within a year i found a text on his phone that he was visiting strip clubs

my h is in an industry where this is fairly common for men
and while i don;t mind that thing every once in awhile when he is on the road
i could see, by the texts that it was becoming common

and right then something in me turned
i know i stopped trusting right then
and i have too many thoughts to write
i fear that i am all over the place, so forgive me

thanks for the support and the comments
they help more than you know
or maybe you do


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