if i stop and think about it for a moment i could see that you are all maybe right? i actually did thwart this the first time in 2009...i have posts dating back to then
but within 2 months he was back and we were going to make everything work and we did make strides before he left this last time, my h said that it had been better just not fast enough or better enough
and about 6 months after he returned that first time, i know i was unhappy again i could see the signs that it was not changing all that much
and this is where i beat me up because maybe i could have done things differently well of course i could have and within a year i found a text on his phone that he was visiting strip clubs
my h is in an industry where this is fairly common for men and while i don;t mind that thing every once in awhile when he is on the road i could see, by the texts that it was becoming common
and right then something in me turned i know i stopped trusting right then and i have too many thoughts to write i fear that i am all over the place, so forgive me
thanks for the support and the comments they help more than you know or maybe you do