This was the first house we have owned...for each of us...rented together in the past...we have been together since 19 and 20.
Since owning this house I have wanted to do things to it, change it etc., I like to do those things, but H does not and it always to tired or busy to do them...
So we would need a smaller house, with less upkeep and less expenses so that H would not have to work as much or have the pressure on him about the house...
I love my house, do not feel it is too big if we add another child, but feel that the house payment adds stress to H, but we did refinace and get it down $500/month...
H likes to have new things etc., I would rather he be home...I don't know if H would change his job though...he likes it but I also know that he would want to be there for s as he gets older in in the position he is in right now it is too unpredictable...
I would love to offer this up to H right now...but it is too soon...just hoping I can get to the point to say it before it is too late.
We do both like the bigger the better, I am to blame for wanting more and spending more, was not like this before I met H, we did not have a lot of money growing up but never went without...since I have not been working our spending has stayed the same which is not good...
I am also considering selling my car to get a less expensive one, but people keep telling me that will effect divorce sitch...I don't think I really care about that too much if it will help in a little way to stop from getting to that point...
Thinking of maybe telling H I was thinking of selling vehicle for one with less of a payment...plus we bought an SUV because he did not have a truck....which he has now sicne buying a brand new one 5 days after asking for d
