He told me he doesn't want a D, but he just can't work on the marriage right now. He needs to clear his head hence why hes moving Out. I asked him what is holding him back from a D he said the kids and the fear of starting over.
Knowing that he is only in this for the kids and fear, do we have hope? How can he say he doesn't want a D but not willing to work on it. I feel that I am a broken record here. I am really losing my Mind over this. The confusion is killing me
AM, honestly I don't know why you are confused. From the recent conversation you had with him, he's clearly telling you he can't work on m now. He can't even think about being intimate with you because he's so beyond mad and resentful. There's nothing to read here IMO. He needs time and period. I've felt and wondered many times I know I hurt him but people hurt. I hurt through this m but I got over it. Why can't he do that same? Apparently the pain caused from sex rejection for men is so much deeper and more painful than we can ever imagine.
I know I'm in the same situation as you are but the man is kinda right. He's suffered this for 10 years and it's only been 6 months so you have to be patient. I honestly believe now is not that time for us to tell them we "suffered too"
By the way, why do you two keep having all these conversations now? Is it part of RetroV thing? or are you initiating the conversations because you want answers?
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
