LBS-still hauling-3rd lap

[VeryGrateful]

Dm, I haven't posted on your thread but have been observing.

I am just about 6 months in to this hell.
I think it was 25 who posted a note from sandi on my first thread about 6 months "not even scratching the surface" of the waw's hurt.

So I'm still trying to be patient.

I am like you in terms of 6 months into sitch. You have definitely been patient. If you are like me you've had to dig deep to find patience you never knew you had.

i have found out that another issue for wife was a business decision I made 7 years ago. (franchise) I sincerely believed at the time she was on board completely. Turns out not, and in hindsight it was a bad decision. I have started the process of undoing that. We were reminiscing at our last meeting that our happiest time, financially and career-wise,was right before I joined. I can't unspend the money, but I can and will restructure the way i run the business.

I to am finding out about some resentments recently. Things I thought had been resolved but obviously not. Not sure W can work thru those things with me. I hope we can but W will have to want to.

Does it seem like her resentment is losing steam? Her comment last week about "certainly" missing me, now she's proud of me...a small tear of joy when I dwell on those. She also sent us a pizza out of the blue. Even her input and opinions about ideas I'm having about the business are way + I think?

Then again she really doesn't want to see me...

This seems certainly positive about "certainly missing you".

For me during our sitch I've seen times of what I describe as positive texts but then W pulls back. So when they do come I just note them as perhaps positive small steps in the right direction but don't let myself get to up about it. About two weeks ago W texted to say among 3 other positive statements she can't believe how understanding I've been through this crisis. Since then, not much.