I am just about 6 months in to this hell. I think it was 25 who posted a note from sandi on my first thread about 6 months "not even scratching the surface" of the waw's hurt.
So I'm still trying to be patient.
Since my last post I've been trying to continue down the "road map" she's given me:
5 or 6 interviews, 3 offers. 1 job. Nothing spectacular. Should hear on a "career job" in about 10 days. If not I'll be pursuing retraining.
i have found out that another issue for wife was a business decision I made 7 years ago. (franchise) I sincerely believed at the time she was on board completely. Turns out not, and in hindsight it was a bad decision. I have started the process of undoing that. We were reminiscing at our last meeting that our happiest time, financially and career-wise,was right before I joined. I can't unspend the money, but I can and will restructure the way i run the business.
i have been doing quite a bit of work on the above, however I have bouts of demotivation...often...due to emotions about sitch. This could become a GAL activity for me.
Lots more positive conversation w/wife, but only text. She started an R convo one day, which I don't like to text about. I had told her I was hired, and she said "sorry I'm putting you under stress" or similar. I started off asking why she thought I seemed stressed, then just said I want her to be healthy. She said she wants both of us to be. Next day I told her of better job I got offered, she said lots of nice things, including "I'm proud of you."
i want, badly, to see her. I haven't pressed. Casually mentioned it on her normal day off, she was working. Didn't try to make it another day, or even bring it up again...the conversation was moving fast.
Does it seem like her resentment is losing steam? Her comment last week about "certainly" missing me, now she's proud of me...a small tear of joy when I dwell on those. She also sent us a pizza out of the blue. Even her input and opinions about ideas I'm having about the business are way + I think?
Then again she really doesn't want to see me...
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
but only text. 
She started an R convo one day, which I don't like to text about. I had told her I was hired, and she said "sorry I'm putting you under stress" or similar. I started off asking why she thought I seemed stressed, then just said I want her to be healthy. She said she wants both of us to be. Next day I told her of better job I got offered, she said lots of nice things, including "I'm proud of you."