Looking for a little advice and support

[cbtdad]

Thanks for the awesome feedback 25!
Wow, that was definitely a tough situation you went through.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, but what a great example of strapping it up and getting out there.
First, the depression. If you ask her, she would tell you she is fine and she is actually happy. Of course those who know her best all agree that that is not the case. I definitely can't be the one right now to talk to her about these problems. Her mom and dad have both tried and she won't listen to anyone. We all agre it's not the horse that is the problem. We think she is causing the horses to go lame. This will be her 6th horse and all have had the same problem. She was in a major car accident when she was 14 and her dad has wondered what that has done. He seems to think she transfers that fear to the horse.
I am learning to have empathy for sure and to focus on the things she is doing right and not wrong. I know for sure that I have had a part in this. One of the biggest problems if not the biggest was my anger and verbal abuse. Which I am currently seeing a counselor about an working on. I did call every night to tell my son goodnight even when I was out. I would text we and let her know if I was staying out an where I was staying. I never cheated or had an affair. That's he reason I starts making changes in November because I realized I was driving a dagger into our marriage.
I deintely have not given her enough time ad she certainly would have ever right to divorce me and not give me a chance.
It takes two and he definitely ha some fault in getting to this point, but I would take 70% of the blame an not say its 50/50