post-D with WAW

[azguy]

Journaling:
Have been working with my DB coach to develop friendly and positive interactions with W over last month or so. We had a great interaction with our S's science project, joking around as a family and enjoying one another's company. The following weekend, I invited her along to the zoo with S and I. She declined but was very polite about it.

Since then, I've noticed a pulling away from her. She hasn't contacted me about practical details of parenting. I tried to talk to her about choosing S's school for next year. She wanted only to know what decision I had made.

So, perhaps she is reacting to my efforts to be more friendly toward her. One of the things she told me about her parent's divorce when we were together, was that she was bothered by how her dad always wanted to act as if her and her mom were good friends. I fear that she think I am trying to whitewash the past by acting friendly toward her.