First Timer

[adinva]

I think it makes a lot of sense that at his age he's getting a bit more challenging to you as his male parent. And you probably do have a point about mom catering to him more; based on her comment that you should have let him keep touching your hand in order to avoid him escalating. But moms parent differently from dads generally. You're not likely to get her to agree her way is wrong. You just need to deal effectively with the situation you are experiencing firsthand. Judging her for how she is when she's with him isn't going to help you much.