Thks urworthy. Absolutely I need to show that my changes are for real and that I am loving and compassionate. Here's what confuses me he wants to act like this is a honor doory sitch. He comes over today to pick up kids since I am going to a baby shower and he wants to chat about my friend who is having a baby.
During our sit down talk he suggested I watch sone funny jon Stewart clip, he sends emails trying to make us pals and joking that full moon must be why our daughters were acting crazy.
My father says by playing in to these nicities I am telling him his behavior is okay and acceptable vs being more aloft and not engaged in his friendly chat.
I guess it is the old dance when I pull back he leans in.
It took me months to be calm around him. And then months of faking my calm. Now I am totally calm but really this business of being friends when he is destroying our family is lying and putting on an act.
This man is my cancer. I don't want to chit chat and be friendly neighbors. I don't care of this pushes him away.
He is a jerk who left his children as well
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
