Tori, thank you for the encouraging words and a hug. My H is generally a caring person. He would say these words to the friends. This is why I’m not overly excited. However, he didn’t say this on some occasions in the last few months, even though there was an opportunity. I don’t know if it makes sense. Last time I was going to our vacation home on my own he just said “have fun”, but didn’t tell me to drive careful. Maybe I’m just over analyzing it too much. Like I said I didn’t have any contact with him in a month before this phone call, so every word in our conversation mattered.
I’m not sure if he is having MLC. AnotherStander made a comment before that it doesn’t sound like MLC. If it, it is not a typical MLC. He didn’t start buying any youthful clothing, didn’t start going to the gym (even though he needs it…). On the opposite, it looks like he downgraded his lifestyle. He started wearing flip-flops, even when he was traveling on the plane. He would never do it before, he always wanted to look respectable. I also don’t have any knowledge of him making friends/dating younger girls, except this girl, the relative of our friends. She is 32. But, even then I have no proof if there anything developing any further there.
Thinking back, about his moodiness… Now I think that he did have an EA last summer, even though he might not thought about it this way. He presented it as being very good friends with that woman who’s phone number showed a lot on the phone records and who I confronted him about when he told me ILYBNILWY.
I do have good days. I’m generally very confident that I would do just fine without him. But, I find myself missing him a lot recently. At the same time, when I remember that he told me ILYBNILWY and now is trying to start a new relationship with a 32 year old, I tell myself that I don’t want anything to do with him anymore. I tell myself that he is not the same man I loved.
On a positive note, I went to a club, dancing last night with a friend. I think I didn’t dance like that since I was 20.
Sorry for my choppy sentences some times. English is not my first language.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state