What I'm learning from H stages, myself!

[mizjjd]

.... Last Sat night while we were still on the phone I made it very clear to H that if he needs to have EA in his life as a friend for whatever reason, I will reach a final point where I will break all communication with him, and go on with my life without him.

At first he was surprised by my intensity for zero contact expressing how it’s just another human being, one that can’t help herself though life, but quickly retracted his thoughts back to my POV. He then said, I understand, I believe you, you are filled with such grace and confidence, and I don’t dare stand up against you.

I am right there with you on this, very same boat. "She's just an old friend I like to talk to. She's almost like a counselor to me..." Wow. I am getting ANGRY just thinking about the last convo with H about this.

Later that night he stripped down in the bathroom and asked me to look at him. He stood there looking lost staring into the mirror tugging on his face, hair, arms and abdomen. He said it was the first time in over a year that he looking at himself, his hair loss and his face showing his toils, he see’s himself as he is today. Fully amazed at the way his face cannot hide all he has been through, he says omg, I got older!

My H does this too!! Lately its been his eyebrows that have been offending him. He even asked me to SHAVE THEM OFF!! Lol, I refused but did offer to make him an appt to have them waxed... he's considering. And he's taken to combing his hair all forward, thinking it disguises his receding hairline.

Poor guys, mortality surely does upset them. Sigh. Never know to laugh or cry.

But it sounds like things are brightening up a bit for you. Take in the sunshine - but don't misplace your umbrella.

Cheers