Wol anything u do will be resisted by your W. I'm not an expert on autism but I'm gonna throw out some ideas. Maybe others will chime in. If you expect your W to change her ways regarding your son in wont happen. If you expect her to stop obssessing over your son and give u and the others attention it won't happen. If u compete with your son over her attention he will win always. If he acts out and you inform your W she will say that it doesn't happen to her. That's her guilt over your sons condition speaking. She blames herself for it. How I as your mother failed you, made you ill. This what she maybe telling herself.
Not to blame u but when your son does things that u know will annoy you is there anything you could do differently? To avoid him acting out and restraining him? Is the school helping him? Have you looked into a Behaviorist? Just some thoughts
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
