Glad you posted. I was wondering about you, noticed you hadn't posted in awhile.
One thing I will say... I think it's good to give yourself "check-in" times (per T^2, thank you!) to see how you are feeling with your situation.
I decided fairly early on that I was going to give it a year. I had read somewhere about giving yourself a private time frame. It did personally help me feel like this wasn't going to go on indefinitely.
Of course, there were many times along the way that I "thought" I was done. But I wasn't.
Once I got to a year, some things in my sitch were just becoming too much for me. I approached my H two separate times about two different issues ($ and OW). I expected him to be gone. Instead, we had very lengthy discussions, some spew, but some good info and interaction too.
Here I am, over a year and still standing. My next goal is 18 months (July). This doesn't mean that sh!t is not going to happen in the meantime. Who knows what could happen. It just means I am trying to see this till the end if I can.
Trying our best is all we can do J. I've been told over and over I will know when I am really done. I totally believe it.
My point is, when May rolls around, maybe don't be set on divorce. Maybe just think in terms of seeing how you are feeling. A lot can happen between now and then, for you and your W.
Remember when we said the happy-go-lucky mask would begin to crack eventually?
She may try to get out the glue to fix it, but it's happening.
Hang in there J! You are being a great dad while at the same time giving this your all.
Can't ask for more than that right now
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
