I would go with Choice 2.
It seems you guys are getting closer again and you don't want to come out like you are not supporting or working with her.

Good luck and keep fighting the good fight Grizz!

Me:36,W:37
M:8, T:13
S:3yo, D:10yo (mine)
BD 10/12 and 01/13
DBing since 02/13
W moved out 8/13