I've learned much from this board, and think that others can read my story and maybe learn something.
So last night, my wife didn't really want to talk about anything -- and I didn't pressure her to talk. Yet today, I get another email. So now I realize, that talking is too hard for her but email is easier. I think I read in the DB book that this can happen with communication -- if not in person, via email, phone, or something else.
To Grizz and cbtdad, yes I now understand what others say when the MLC spouse is in a "fog" or "tunnel". My wife's emails are incoherent and in some ways out of touch with reality. But this is how she sees the world. It is difficult to accept that this person who was rational and grounded now thinks like this...
Anyway, her last email was much more encouraging in tone, suggesting "but not saying" that she may be ready to work on the marriage. We'll see. So far its been 2 steps forward, 1 step back.
