I know the feeling. Deep down I want to do the same and ask. All we can do is be patient. Earlier in our sitch I tested these waters and learned.
My sitch is a little different because we are in MC and that is opening up some areas for deeper discussion. My W has said recently (2 days ago) something to the effect of "we don't know what's going to happen to us". So there's nothing for me to ask. I think my W really doesn't know at this point.
Best if you make many small steps in the right direction vs. a giant leap forward only to fall backwards.
