caigy, Your h is a very angry man because he's not getting what he wants. Furthermore, you have not control over the judicial system and if he's got a gripe about getting things over and done with, he should consult his lawyer about it and not vent to you.
I'm sorry that he's been such an angry man about things, As for the twinkle twat, I'm glad your son put her in her place. That is one smart young man and you should be very proud of him!
Be thankful that you don't have a lot of contact w/your h right now. You do not need to listen to the venom spewing from his mouth. Each mlcer is different and some of them really didn't have a lot of contact at first w/the mlcer, but as the mlcer moves along the path, they begin to have some communication, whether it is about a divorce, furniture, money, etc. In time, you very well may hear from him because he's going to want something. They can't leave us alone for very long.
I'm sorry about the 2011 amended return being dumped in your lap. It's better that you take care of it...at least you will know it's done.
Hang in there. Please try not to allow his spewing and demonizing get to you. It's his way of trying to justify what he's doing and he knows that no one believes the crap he's spewing, especially your son.
I hope that you will find something fun to do this weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
