I was thinking about your question regarding issues...
I think the catalyst for my H's crisis is two fold.
One is my H's health issues, which we have been dealing with for about ten years. We found out about them when we were just newlyweds, and it rocked our world. It was a painful and difficult time in our life and R. I thought we had worked through things (looking back now, maybe they just went dormant) and things resurfaced when we had kids. Then he worried about not being around to see the boys grow up, and also that they would inherit his health issues.
He and I have discussed these things over the years, and also in recent talks.
Now, the other "issues" are still a bit of a mystery to me. During our last big convo, he said something to the fact that he's "always been a fake" and " had no substance". I'm not really sure what he is referring to there. I have a theory, but am going to see if he (hopefully!) will feel safe enough to confide in me some day.
I thought it was interesting in my last talk with him that he told me he was "trying to work through issues" and that he couldn't "give me a time line" for it.
Interesting vocabulary, no?
So I guess that some issues have always been there w/o my knowledge, and other things I was aware of.
You aren't the only one hoping for a sunny spring!!!
Hang in there, ride the waves of her moods, and dust off your back packing gear
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
