W stopped by tonight to drop off my dog. She had asked to keep her for the night and I had agreed.
She came in and it was a bit easier than it's been lately. She asked about how I was doing and if my company had been bought yet. We talked in a friendly manner on high level stuff for a few minutes.
She then started asking about if we could be friends once all of this was done. She seemed to be reminiscing about how our boating adventures we’ve had over the years, how she missed her xBIL; her sister left him and an affair after they had only been married for six months and that she remembers how we used to fight about a lot of things and this last year when we went to Maine it had been a fun adventure.
She said she knew that this was mostly being caused by her, the OW and how she has wanted to redefine our marriage to just be friends. She then went on to talk about when she went to Florida to visit and talking to her niece. She asked her niece when she was born and her niece was born the same year we got together. My W said something like you know the other night when we were talking about if we could still be friends after the divorce and I said that time will tell. She keeps saying she really wants us to be friends, hang out together, take the dogs for walks etc. I tried to validate her feelings and say I understand what she is saying, but really how do I validate that she wants a divorce and to be friends in the same breath?
She hung out for about 20 minutes this time and seemed to have tears and a little confused. I really wanted to give her a hug and say everything would be okay. I knew that would just send her down a hole. I also know that after the divorce it will be extremely hard for me to be friends at any level. I had been feeling really distant from her over the last few months, but tonight I felt a bit closer.
Then she stopped abruptly and asked if I had given any more thought to letting her have the boat for Memorial Day weekend. Wham and we are through!
