The way I did it was by actually detaching. I still think about the W once a day at least. But it's definitely like it was a month ago. I do a couple of things when my mind starts going there. 1. I say to myself STOP. The mind is a powerful for thing and this does work 2. If my thoughts continue to dwell on her I switch them to negative attributes about her. There are many. I want to be married to the person she was and what I know she can be. Which leads me to the last thing 3. I can't control her or the situation except for my thoughts and actions. She has to want to change and be that person
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
