I haven't really engaged W since court Monday. She's made a few comments about me being mad at her and trying to be mean to her (taking the boys for sushi without her) which are all untrue. I have simply been going about my week focused on me, and I wanted to spend a little one on one time with each of the kids.
W asked me to ML yesterday morning and I think for the first time since BD I bowed out. I'm just not sure how I feel about it right now.
She has not mentioned court at all. Hasn't asked any questions, nothing. At this point I'm not sure if she knows about the trial date or not.
As to changing gears, we're so close to D now, I question why I continue to live like this. Yeah, it's a happy limbo...but it's still limbo. On one hand, we have a trial date and on the other, W is making future plans for us. On one hand, we ML and enjoy doing things together, on the other, she's still in contact with OM.
I am starting to think I need to do a few things here. First, draw a hard line with regards to OM and let her know that if he's in the picture, then I am not (and ask for transparency to validate). I'd be willing to agree to an exit strategy as it comes to business, but he's got to go for this to work long term. I'm going to assume here she's going say there's no change from her perspective, so second, I think I have to hire an attorney and get the paperwork finalized. Her attorney only addressed custody, and while we're not really disagreeing on anything, a lot hasn't been put to paper. Taking the lead on the D should remove that "power" she's seem to have over me regarding it.
Maybe she'll figure it out or maybe she won't, but at a minimum, this should end limbo. I'm still thinking thru this and trying to determine what feels right. I'm hesitant to even approach her with a discussion based on history, so I may need to flip it and start with the attorney.