And the Beat Goes On...

[ericmsant2]

Then I gave ex basically 2 choices. Choice 1 was that she would let me take care of D2 full time on a temporary basis with her getting D2 every toher weekend and holidays we agreed to; until she can stabilize her mood and behavior and get a place of her own and settled and then we'd go back to 50/50 status.

She picked choice 1 and begged me not to take D2 away from her, to which I replied, I will not do that, unless you refuse to get help and are not getting better. I need to look out for D2 as no one else can right now and you need to put your own oxygen mask on before you can even think about putting on D2s.

IMO, this ^^^^^ is a good DAD! Kudos to you Tested…kudos to you. You managed to 1) do right and what is best for your D and 2) show compassion to your X and in turn NOT hurt her R with her mom. I am proud of you dude!

To answer Eric's question, do I still have that small hope that Ex could come back? yes. Is it driving my decision process? no.

Good answers!

I know this sounds controlling, and I really don't like doing this, but this is the lesser of 2 evils at this point. If this can be used as motivation and incentive for her to get better then great! If not then it will be a very sad time for her.

I do not think it sound controlling at all. You are trying to help your X while at the same time taking care of your D. As the saying goes…doing the right thing is NEVER the wrong thing.