Well, I can. I know there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. I also know no partner in a marriage is 100% honest, 100% of the time.
My H has things I know nothing about, like his relationship with his kids and family. I'm content with that.
My H has deceived me several times with our money. I don't think I can be blamed for any mistrust I feel. As long as I'm with him, I'm not worried. I do check our accounts regularly however, I've gone from daily monitoring to more like weekly, if at all. His feeling towards me have changed and he doesn't feel the need to protect his assets from me. Of course, I've never given him reason to.
He has qualities that I love and respect. He also makes a great living and we have shared property. Our relationship is working very well now.
This future separation of finances is not something I am thinking about or obsessing about. In fact, it seems to bother you more than it does me.
Thank you for your concern but it's not a major issue in my life at this time.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
