It would be the dim/dark attitude. I'll be nice, of course, but not as willing to joke and be talkative. I'm doing it to see how things go. I'm thinking she may be more relaxed and chatty because she's "happy" with the fact that she's getting what she wants (freedom/D) and I'm being so nice about it. There have been very few consequences to her actions.
Have either of you started the D process?
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It's a 180 for me, in a way. It's how I was initially, and I was getting hugs and ILYs, but also venom. I then started being nicer and the hugs/ILYs stopped but she was more relaxed and pleasant.
Thoughts on whether that's proper dbing for me? Do the findings of my study matter? Should I leave well enough alone as long as she's pleasant?
Forgive me if I missed it, (I looked back) but what do you mean by "the findings of your study"?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
