I am continuing to validate, and try really hard to find things to notice and affirm, no matter how small.
How does it go when you validate her? Does she accept it? Does it mean as much to her when it comes from you instead of an outsider? (my experience is it does not, maybe because I've done it our entire relationship)
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W finally applied for a job, funny how a year ago it wasn't any of my business and she was going to do it all herself (and never did anything), fast forward to now and she asked for my help a lot. I really hope she gets it and it helps boost her self-esteem, contributing to the family finances and having to get out and interacting with people.
You can offer advice and guide when she asks, but this is something she needs to do for herself to heal. But then you already knew that.
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Other than that, I'm pretty burnt out, lots of absences at work due to flu, so my work load is rather higher than usual...ugh...meh. Backpacking season is getting closer...must.look.forward...big.picture. lol T^2
Hang in there buddy, spring is right around the corner!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
