First time to post on your thread. My H's one of the biggest reasons for BD was less frequency and quality of sex. After I started DB-ing, I didn't know what to do either because he was so distant I couldn't even touch him. And he started sleeping in a guest bedroom so that made it even tougher.
I kept doing nice small things for him like picking up his favorite cookies and chips at a store whenever I had a chance. I’m sure he appreciated that but I still wasn’t getting any warm feedback. I’m really starting to think the classic 180 (being mysterious, not touching at all) do not work for H like ours who had intimate issue. I’m pretty sure I angered him in the beginning when I wasn’t telling him when I was coming back or where I was going etc. I feel he started opening up to me little when I started hugging him every morning. (But please note I started this 2-3 months into DB-ing so I didn’t initiate this when he was flat out cold) Everyone is different. You say your H is disgusted by you at the moment and mine wasn’t. So maybe you should focus on WOA for him to warm up first..
It’s good that you know his other l language. Give him WOA on smallest things until he moves out and after he moves out.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
