Did that snooping make you feel better about your sitch? Did it help you in some way? Do you think your D would appreciate you going through her phone? Do you think your W would appreciate it? I hope you see the answers are no, no, no and no. This is a total lose-lose situation, so stop it!!
But since you did, might as well learn from it:
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W:If he brushes my arm one more time I'm going to punch him.
What's this about? Are you trying to brush up against her as some covert way of working in some physical touch? If so then stop, it's clearly not working and in fact is giving you the opposite of the desired results.
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W:Just so tired of it. hard 3 focus. He wanted me to go out Friday night since you both will be busy, think I will say no.
Good grief, you're asking her out on dates?? Have you read Sandi's DB tips? NO DATES!!!! If you had any doubt that it was the wrong thing to do, well you know now because your W is making it very clear that it's not what she wants. It's pressure, quit applying the pressure!!
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W:I am very interested in feeling that way again. OM made me feel that way wanted, touchable, irrsitable. ur dad can be the same way but it comes across to me as annoying.
This is typical, this is why she needs time and lots of space. What she doesn't need is for you to hover and try and brush up against her and who-knows-what else. She doesn't want you right now in any way shape or form. Understand that and respect it. Until you can give her space she will never learn to miss you and crave that attention again.
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I HATE that she talks like this to D about me!
Then don't give her a reason to. She's responding to your behavior. Change your behavior. Follow DB principals.
