Finally getting it after three months...

[lostinscared]

Oh boy... I want to sugarcoat this but I can't. I'll take Bug's creepy and raise an appalling. This type of behavior is completely outrageous and so incredibly unhealthy for your D and your family. And I'll tell you something, while you did snoop, that ship has sailed. FWIW, in my VERY humble opinion, you NEED to address it for at least the sake of your D.

I wouldn't worry too much about the contents of her words at the moment because this is the work of someone who is not "with it" at the moment.

JP, I'm so very sorry for what you are going through. I pray for your peace and for your healing.

LIS

[labug]

For me, the bigger issue would be your W dumping on your D. Sometimes we have to take our lumps for the greater good.

[Mach1]

So hard to read that you are thinking of throwing in the towel already but realize our sitch is different...keep your head up and goals in line is what is helping me...

I have so many highs and lows... I need to find a way to level everything out so that I can focus on what is important and keep my sanity

Well, that lasted 24 hours....


jp...

What is it that you were looking for with the texts ??

What were you hoping to see ????

I just want you to see that YOU were the cause of your undoing...

Rule number...???? Fifty-something ????

Stop asking questions that you don't want the answer to...

Or in this case,

Stop looking for things to intentionally hurt yourself....

Stay in your own head, and don't worry about what she is saying to your Daughter. Be strong and truthful to yourself, and your Daughter will see things with her own eyes.

[labug]

^^^that means I would admit how I found out and address it.

[lostinscared]

I LOVE Mach. Almost never disagree with anything he says as I love his approach... ALWAYS wisdom in what he says including what he wrote above. The only part I VERY RESPECTFULLY disagree with is that I think in this case you need to worry about it. I think it is damaging to your D.

[jp787]

^^^that means I would admit how I found out and address it.

Asked W not to talk to D about this stuff twice, she agreed. I dont see the point in telling that I saw conversations only to push her away more and break D trust, as W obliviously wont stop.
W and D are BFF, seriously. It is killing other D. W and D share way too much, D has taken role of H and friend and she loves it, it is her place and purpose now. They protect each other. Neither can do wrong in each others eyes.

[lostinscared]

What a nightmare. Honestly. I do understand what you are saying, but someone needs to be the "adult" here.

Regardless of what you decide to do, I'm praying for you.

LIS

[labug]

My last post was referring to my previous post, not Mach's.

[jp787]

I know

[jp787]

thanks for everyone's responses. 25yearsmlc you out there? Love to hear your take