Oh boy... I want to sugarcoat this but I can't. I'll take Bug's creepy and raise an appalling. This type of behavior is completely outrageous and so incredibly unhealthy for your D and your family. And I'll tell you something, while you did snoop, that ship has sailed. FWIW, in my VERY humble opinion, you NEED to address it for at least the sake of your D.
I wouldn't worry too much about the contents of her words at the moment because this is the work of someone who is not "with it" at the moment.
JP, I'm so very sorry for what you are going through. I pray for your peace and for your healing.
