And also, if you followed my thread all the way through, you would see that I did that about a month ago. I was absent from the site for about 3 weeks while I spent two weeks again "being the partner I wished to be." H was happy, happy, happy. After two weeks of no reciprocation (which H readily admits he didn't,) I stopped. I'm glad that lifestyle works for you; it doesn't make ME happy. I think I don't make as good a martyr as you suggest I do.
