Man, Tig, I feel you. I'm in a similar place right now. I'm still "standing", but I have made a mental shift to this may be the end...for me. I don't think my H will be able to change enough of his demons to be faithful. I don't need to make a decision now. Frankly, I can't D him until I can this baby anyway. So we are separated, and I live in that.

I'm sorry you keep finding out more. I understand that!!! Remember that you ate still only 4 weeks from this craziness. Most of the books I have read say not to make a decision in the first 6 months. I mean, your H is rushing a D. You can just live in the now.

You are so strong!!! I hope you can get some kind of break to recharge. Your children are blessed to have you as a mom!

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D