I still struggle with some old conversations about how I didn't listen to the W or our friends about what was the preferred option or what they wanted to do. I have been made out to simply ignore everyone at all times and just simply do what I want. While I accept that I certainly did this many times with the W, it starts to worry you when you think you treated your friends and other family members this way, especially when you don't see it or remember it that way.
so, um, maybe there is some truth to their claims? Let's say it is true...does that make you a bad guy? (NO...it makes you a guy who needs to be more aware of how he says things).
Or, are you really saying everyone else is wrong? Look, It's NOT easy to hear this stuff.
BTW, Did you take in the post I wrote about HOW you say things? It can, and USUALLY outweighs WHAT we say.
I'm a lawyer so I see myself as a wordsmith. When I write, I expect my words to be taken at face value. But in person---we are non verbally communicating WAY WAY more than we realize.
As a L, it's hard for me to digest that, but I have learned to. I had to.
Juries can forget words I say a lot BUT they'll remember how I seemed to feel that day, way more... WTH?
So, my guess is you recall content, whereas your w, AND others,
recall the message they received, not necessarily what you meant to send...
Instead of getting all defensive, (as I would, I'm sure), I'll pass on someone else's comment I found so useful. When we hear this type of "criticizm" , we need to learn to hear it more as
Valuable Feedback...
Make sense?
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