I would think the MC meeting is something your H should be initiating it right?
Why do you feel the need to fix their relationships? I mean at the very basic level - I know why.. but you are putting in the work here as far as I see.. or am i mistaken?
In your eyes - what would your kids and H be doing differently towards each other that would make you believe forgiveness/effort is happening?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.