reb9597, all I can say is I understand your feelings when the ball finally drops and you start to see all the mistakes about yourself. I found that place a few weeks ago. Maybe, well I am hoping, it will now make it easier for you to go forward (whatever that brings) and accept what has happened cannot be changed, but what you can change for the future.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.