SM I can't speak for all of us but you definitely did not correctly assume why I've been posting to you. I've been posting to you because I saw hope for you...
to improve your relationships by changing yourself.
Not hope for your sitch or your strategies, or getting your W to do anything, nor any useless attempt to predict what she might do.
I think one reason why people have been so frenzied here is, like a convert who's seen the light, when your eyes have been opened to a different way of looking at things, that you never understood before, that made it possible to survive and thrive the unfathomable rejection of your spouse, you feel it would almost be wrong not to try to help another who doesn't seem to see it.
I guess that can be annoying, and sometimes rude, but speaking for myself it came from a belief that I might have a chance to help someone who's struggling, and in doing so reinforce my own learning.
I'm going to take a step back because I think the attention is somehow reinforcing the exact same habits you came here with.
I wish you well and hope that one day I find you really living, and happy.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
