Seriously though. What do u think of the concepts of mr nice guy? I mean is it true that being too 'nice' is what landed all of us here?
Did you read the book or just some of the forum postings? Because I did read the book, and the whole point of that book is guys that act nice are really NOT AT ALL nice, but deeply troubled. They pretend to be nice and warm and fuzzy and "here let me get the door for you" and "isn't my car the coolest, look at how clean I keep it" while they're really doing everything to seek acknowledgement and acceptance from others. They are manipulators in the worst possible way. They use their niceness to try to overcome all their underlying issues. When they hurt others and are held accountable for it they hide behind their "nice" facade and try to turn the tables, "how could I ever do something like that, don't you see I'm a nice guy?" The book is all about showing "nice" guys just how narcissistic, controlling and manipulative they are and it teaches them how to recognize what they're doing and stop that behavior. Thus the title "No More Mister Nice Guy." The title DOES NOT mean quit being nice to others because you're being too nice and you're a doormat, it means quit pretending to be something you're not.
So again, if you'll pardon a 2x4, it seems you've read bits of something and completely misinterpreted what it means.
