I am sorry to hear you are going through this. All of the stages of him pulling away and of you discovering the PA must have been really difficult. I am new to the forum but I wanted to offer my two cents based on the themes others have emphasized on this board.
Your H has been sending you pretty consistent messages for a while now. There don't seem to be many cracks in the veneer that suggest a lot of room for interpretation or mixed messages.
If I were you, I'd decide how much longer you are willing to live in the current situation (waiting for him to come around). You have plenty of choices, even if he files. You will make it through this no matter what happens.
