Finally getting it after three months...

[jp787]

jp 787...I have also been thinking of money sitch...H works I have been staying at home...it is all his money really and I know he must now have a credit card going because there are no hotels bills and other items being posted to our account....also so want to ask about while there is no work pay stubs in the mail he brought to the house and why I can't find one in the house after Sept., So trying to hold back from asking anything...reminding myself it does not really matter in the long run...

This sounds really difficult! I admire you for not asking or looking! that is a huge step forward that I haven't got to yet.

Also in IC and this week having the discussion to only spend 1/2 session on marriage 1/2 on me! Feeling like I could talk for hours on the marriage and never really work on the concerns that got me to this point...we will see how Thursday goes...

That is really good! I am starting with a new therapist next week and will keep that in mind! Thank you

So hard to read that you are thinking of throwing in the towel already but realize our sitch is different...keep your head up and goals in line is what is helping me...

I have so many highs and lows... I need to find a way to level everything out so that I can focus on what is important and keep my sanity

Added another 180 to the list to do H's to do list around the house, show him I did not and do not need him for it...helping me to feel more independent too...H's to do list was a big stress in our marriage because nothing was even done because he worked so many hours and was away from the home.

Do it for the positive that it brings to you!

keep head up...keep focused...hope some of what I said might help

thank you!