House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 3)

[Breakdown]

Don't let her actions/reactions affect your behavior. Keep it going.

[FloydMan]

So much for the 3 days of 'almost nice'. The house dropped 50 degrees. Must've been because I folded laundry, made dinner, cleaned up, walked and fed the dog, paid bills, shovelled heavy snow from the driveway while she was out with d14 and friends for a coffee. Man she got snippy. I have done chores but I have given no attention to her. Stopped pursuit months ago.

[FloydMan]

....and even nastier today. I have been 'acting as if'' for a couple months now. She was even rude to me in front of d14 and her friend tonight. My d's friend clearly noticed.

[FloydMan]

So why on earth would W have her L spell out in 3 separate letters since Nov that W does not have any OM in her life with the caveat "not that it is relevant to the situation"? The last letter was last week. Why the adamant denial of anyone else in her life? My L said when he spoke with her L that W had said I keep accusing her. I swear I have not said anything of the sort. I said something in Oct that was in reference to her A that she did have. Nothing else at all. My L is perplexed that they keep insisting on this denial. We thought that was dealt with last year. Now she accused me last night of spending too much time with the kids and was bitter i had them New Years Eve. wtf? she took them away for a couple of days over the Holidays and is taking them next week too for 3 days (plus she cant afford it) but she is PO'd about NYE and being home alone and sputs that to me in front of the kids over 2 months later? I am the one mostly left alone. she and i better get used to it and GAL. The only time i get with them is to drive them, look after them, homework etc etc ?.. an hour here or an hour there, church and the odd movie. I had them Superbowl Sunday....that was a month ago. Never a set of days on end with them etc. Is she looking at a different calendar than I? What a litigious mess. Financials are a mess. Kids are a mess. W is a mess. Extended families are a mess. Friends are a mess.

[adinva]

Floyd, dude, I heart you but you are spinning. You tend to take things to catastrophic levels when they are just plain bad, that's all. Friends a mess, really? What concern is that of yours? Leave them out of this. Same for extended families. This is between you and W and your kids. You are not responsible for what any of those extended people think, feel, want, or hope for. In fact you may not even like what they think, feel, want, or hope for. Or they may be telling you one thing and then saying the same to W. Who knows. People do NOT know the right things to say and they only want things to be less awkward and nobody gets hurt. You have to just live your life best as you can and ignore whoever's outside your fishbowl.

Financials I believe. W I believe.

Are the kids a mess? How are you helping them to learn to cope when life is hard? This is not the last hard thing that will come in their lives. You need to get a grip (sorry).

Is she going to say crazy things in the divorce? You bet. I'm sure a lot of spouses do. Why are you getting so worked up over the fact that she's paying her lawyer to repeatedly tell you something you already know? You don't have to get worked up over that. I feel as if you're panicking and every detail is sending you into more frenzy.

Please try to find something that gives you some peace and contentment. Please try to ignore her shenanigans, and stop worrying about who sees or hears what. Be a great dad and a great man, in the midst of the hurricane that is W. There's no good alternative right now.

[FloydMan]

Custody meeting Tuesday afternoon next week. Delays in financial settlement....May take months. Pressure to lower price of house again. It is not moving. Her anger continues.

[Breakdown]

Hang in there buddy.

What are you doing for you? How are you keeping your head straight?

[FloydMan]

Well, i am trying to focus on new job. Lots of responsibility....it's a good challenge and good opportunity. Going out for wings and watch a game with lawyer pal of mine tonight. He and his wife and kids are close to our family....a little awkward for all. He is not in family law but helps me with little things. Their kids are best friends of ours. Not much else. Need to though but so busy. Stressed about upcoming meeting. Either they agree to 50/50 or we go to court. It is that simple. My L is insisting on spending time with W and her L and me out of the room for a bit to see if he can try to see if reconciling is at all possible and find out why her anger is so strong. I think he genuinely feels this has gotten stupid and not in anyone's best interest. I told him she will reject it especially if pressured but says he has seen the oddest turn arounds or at least get things amicable. Says it is ethical to at least try. Says her letters of denying current having OM are odd and has never seen anyone do that during litigation. Her L says she is offended. He wants to calm the anger but W's L seems to want to instigate.

[JuneReN]

Floydie......hugs to you. Hang in there, stop spinning....it seems everywhere you look you see a mess....methinks you are projecting a bit. Lol. Step back, calm, and we have a space on the blanket for you.

Big breath....Let go....come to the blanket, we have wine....and chocolate.

Sorry you are living so close to Crazyville, try to get out more often :))

[FloydMan]

You crack me up Ruby, I love it and you. I'll take the hugs, chocolate and a cozy spot on the blanket for sure but not the wine....have not had a drink in almost 12 years. With your Bard reference, yes....perhaps "The lady doth protest too much, methinks". How's that for spinning?
Stupid L letters of denial that cost money. She is PO'd. Nobody knows why but her. Weird. Heard from her friend today that W is very stressed but won't say much to her. There are financial discrepancies that are being uncovered as well. She is refusing to disclose certain account information.