Engine, since it is not advisable at this point to reveal that you know about her affair, is there any other excuse you could use to request that she switch to another PT? maybe "I have heard great recommendations about so-and-so as a personal trainer, and he/she charges a lot less per hr than your current PT" or something like that? of couse she will object to the change, but you can put her in a position of having to make excuses for why she doesn't want to do so.
Hello Too, Actually, I am confronting her about the A. Living in an open marriage is not healthy for anyone and goes against my principles. In other words, fully loaded for DB but there is a base line. Actually, confronting her with this has got to be done at some time and there is no sense in delaying it. There are boundaries established through the help of others in this forum and my local DB coach. I was fortunate enough to be working with a counselor who put me onto DR and subscribes to the principles of the practice used.
