Yes Cat, I was sincere. I can be too direct or blunt, but I don't mislead.
OTOH, you raise some fair points. Not sure why this dynamic took place here.
Speaking only for myself, I notice that lately I feel defensive if someone challenges what a DB coach says.
To be fair, I usually assume (but not always) there's cherry picking or serious editing going on by the poster and not that the DB coach is off base.
Other times I think there are posters who want to debate an issue WITH DBing...but good grief, we're on someone's thread...not a "debate" forum. But Why do I feel defensive about it? Well, maybe it's based on my experience with a db coach, which I have to say, was superb & flawless for ME/MY situation. I have a strong sense of loyalty to her/DBing b/c of it.
Vernetta was a Godsend to me, and I'd had good mc's before (well, a few). But she was exactly what I needed, when I needed it, and I had something like 15 sessions with her. I sort of feel obligated to say all this-like If I don't, then I'm denying a miracle I witnessed, or something.
Anyway, does it really matter? It's SMs thread and marriage. He is here to ask for help and if we really truly try and help, and it doesn't seem to help --
then it's WE who ought to move on.
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