Time For Me (Part 2)

[Spartan]

Hey S, just stopping by as I see my friends, mach and cat have come to visit. They are the best.

And please hear cat when she says she might not be so nice next time. LOL!

Thanks for stopping by and feel free to add any insight (or welt on the head) that you can. With regards to Cat there better not be a next time and if there is I already told her to scratch away...

And be careful that the reasons for keeping wife out of the fold are what you say and not for any other reasons, ya know?

Fully understand what you mean here. Rest assured my motives are pure as snow on this. I pray daily that my W and kids have a strong R through all this. No matter how hard it is I would prefer the kids to take it out on me because I know I can handle it, not sure how W would react right now and I don't want her to do something stupid she would later regret. I think I have a good support group and they aren't afraid to hit me up side the head if they think I'm doing things for wrong reason.

Thanks Tori. D7 followed up talk today with a few more little questions and seemed more at peace with everything. Said she wants to make sure she can help pick out OUR new house. Taking away false hope isn't fun but (sorry Cat) had to be done to protect them later. I want to be realistic with kids and make sure they understand what our future might look like.

I disagree that you need to tell people to stop telling you about your W's actions. I think these are signs you need to see and listen to. I ignored the signs I got many, many times, and I don't like where I ended up. To me, knowledge is power--the power to make the right decisions.

I also ignored the signs for a long time (these types of things have been reoccurring for last 8 years and I have plenty of hard evidence, I was so weak before BD...). I completely understand where you're coming from. My point in telling them to stop is I have all the dirt/ info I need to convince myself to walk away with a clear conscience. Thing is, this info doesn't help me on my current goal, to improve myself so I'm proud of who I am and I become an even better dad to my kids. Right now my kids and my own well being are all that matter to me. That type of info is just noise to me and there's nothing I can do about it anyway.