Sandi - you're absolutely right. I can think of MANY cases where my W just wanted someone to listen to.
My problem is I've always been a fixer. When I was a kid, I'd take apart my toys and put them back together again; fixed everybody's bikes in the neighborhood; fixed lawn mowers; fixed and restored cars; designed automated assembly equipment for Ford and GM; now I maintain a large computer network - I'm a fixer. The idea of listening was totally foreign to me, until I started reading Michelle's books...
I'm a work in progress... lol.
I want to add a bit to this^^^....yes my h is a "fixer," but one thing that used to bother me was also how I heard his "fixing".
I think this is what SOME WOMEN HEAR their h's saying:
"W, you can Shut up about that now. I told you how to fix it so there's nothing for you to keep whining about."
IT's not what my h meant, USUALLY, but I think there is a kernel of truth in there for a lot of men, and we women do pick up on it...
Soon enough they'll turn to others for their need to communicate or vent or connect with.
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