She texted my daughter a while back saying: "I miss him, but not really, what does that mean" I really hate when she does that to our D, yet she isn't missing me, really. If I back off more wont that make her just forget about me, feel relief and want to be on her own or with someone else more?
Two things regarding text to daughter. Your wife is crossing the line putting your daughter in the middle. I would have a calm, assertive discussion about that with W. Second, stop reading into statements by your wife. Don't believe everything she says.
Regarding backing off and wife forgetting about you, your W wanted S and with that you backing off. If you can be calm and give her space this could help earn trust back. If you are earning her trust she won't forget about you.
jp, you need to calm yourself. I'm in the same boat with my W out of the house and I prefer to think of it as us getting time apart to grow and figure things out. With no guarantees for what will happen with us. I have low expectations.
