Be careful not to read too many books. All of sudden you become the expert and might want to start telling your H how this can be fixed. Unfortunately it's the last thing thy want to hear from you.
I learned this the hard way


M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it