Raine, You handled the conversations quite well. Yes, your h is in mlc and he's just now exploring all of those stuffed down emotions and the triggers that may have caused him to go back in time to visit the events that stunted his emotional growth. He's not ready to discuss them w/anyone because he's still exploring.
As for you not being there to help him. You are not a mind reader. If he didn't tell you that he truly needed your help, how would you have known? Many mlcers say such things, but never voiced their thoughts/concerns at the time they thought we should have been there for them.
You've planted the seeds, allow God to water them and let's pray that he will continue to talk to you.
Keep your expectations at zero at all times. Be a friend, a listener and if he asks for advice or your thoughts on something, by all means be honest w/him and share your thoughts and/or advice.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
