Hey S, just stopping by as I see my friends, mach and cat have come to visit. They are the best.
And please hear cat when she says she might not be so nice next time. LOL!
I just wanted to say a couple of things. Hope you dont mind. Ive been around a long time.
I understand your reason for asking that your wife go into an agreement with you regarding seeing others. Unfortunately, most times when that's done, it is not really kept. It sounded good to her at the time. It made things easier when she said it. And maybe she even had the intentions to keep it. I like to think positively as often as I can.
And who knows what the info you've been given really means?
The thing is, it doesnt really matter. I know you are shaking your head saying, what is she talking about? This really needs to be about you and your kids and you becoming the person you were meant to be.
That's really what dbing is all about. And sometimes it saves marriages.
What I do each day is I try to remember the person I want to be. I try to live that each day. Some days I make it, some I dont, but that is always the goal.
You have a wonderful opportunity here. You get to show your children how to navigate through life's turmoils with dignity, courage and strength. How lucky are you?
Will it be hard for them, absolutely. But, they are watching you closely. And if they see that you are ok, then they will be, too.
And be careful that the reasons for keeping wife out of the fold are what you say and not for any other reasons, ya know?
