reb...I am so happy you asked the questions you have...I have been wondering the same thing to...is being nice to H saying "see she is okay with this and I am a good man for doing this right now" this is not what I want H to take from our interactions....
I also and very controling at time and has also added to getting us to where we are...and it is driving me nuts to be at H's mercy too!
Trying to stay focused on what I need to do for me and s, and get my stuff together...have been doing a lot of decluttering around the house...but eventually I am going to run out of things to do...
Joining Weight Watchers this week...before BD I had been exercising consistently and eating well and since I have exercised once...
Now I have still lost weight mostly because of not remembering to eat...but need to get back on track...
I did by some self help books for myself that have been helping to not focus all on the divorce...I do also have DR and three other books on relationships....if I had only put this effort in before we would not be here
