1) Crimson's post has a ton of value in it. So well said.
2) you see yourself as getting "nailed to the wall" while Suckerpunch get "pats on the back"??
You have NOT read all the posts I wrote to him earlier, if you think he got a lot of pats on the back...I mean, OMG he sooo did not.
(Also, advice will vary some b/c no two situations are identical, AND oh btw, there's no OM in his situation.)
What I saw in him were some pretty negative traits HE admitted to having, AND which is wife complained about...
then he began succumbing to those very traits. But he started to turn things around and recover, when it was pointed out.
He's bravely accepted some TOUGH TOUGH feedback from me, and to my pleasant surprise, he acted on it. Good for him!
Good for all of us who look inside and face those "scary monsters" (e.g., lashing out w/critical judgments, cripping self doubt, anger, etc)
and conquer them...or start to. I think it's a life long process. And it is very hard to do when we are in pain.
I get that. I've been there.
I'm begining to think you need to either take a break from here to really DO stuff,
(GAL for real) or just use the DB coaching,
or find another approach.
We do NOT all have to agree with your choices. You certainly don't need our permission.
But I do refer you to Crimson's post again.
In my eyes he's had one of the most successful journeys around. And as far as I know, he and his w have not reconciled (though I hold out hope).
When you learn to "get" what ^^this means, you'll know you've reached an important milestone. Til then, good luck.
Crimson's post truly has a lot of value in it. I highly recommend you read it a few times. I know I did.
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