I have been following along for some time now but have not chipped in much lately due to the fact that I think you are getting some really, really, sound advice from the folks here. Even "noobs", like yourself by the way, have been able to contribute on some level.
I keep seeing a few things that are really working against you, IMHO. Primarily, and you have heard this repeatedly from the masses, you are trying to create some kind of "FrankenBust" my cobbling together bits and pieces of multiple approaches from multiple books that are cherry-picked by you based on whether or not they seem to comport with what you are predisposed to believe or understand. Most of it seems to be based on "If I/Then she..." - and it just is not that simple. I told you in one of my first posts that there is no silver bullet. If you keep on this road just like in Mary Shelly's book, FrankenBust is going to eventually turn on you as we, the torch and pitchfork wielding villagers, attempt to run it off. I hope you understand the analogy.
Additionally, you seem to have a natural way of turning off people that want to help you. Not good, SM. No one here is getting paid to do this....well, maybe MWD, but that is pretty much it. By your previously articulated standards, even I am of no help to you because my situation ended in divorce. With all due respect, DESPITE that fact my situation is much further down the road than yours with signs of life and hope. Why? Because I focused on me and took the advice of others over what I held to be true....beginners mind....you have referenced it multiple times.
Furthermore, and you have heard this a lot as well....SM, it is not about her, OM or anything else right now. It's pretty much you. You can study attraction and any other theory you think will map you out of this cluster F you are in - but until you turn the mirror on yourself and DO SOMETHING ABOUT YOU you are spinning your wheels.
There are elements about the OM situation that I have opinions on but since that has not been part of my experience I will leave it to others more qualified than I to discuss.
I guess the net-net of it is this, SM...if you want to be here and listen...learn...open your mind a bit, stay. But you are really wearing some of the vets here down to the nub with your cyclical behaviors. You have taken very little advice and still want to teach/pontificate to people here. You are most likely never going to get the people that can help you the most to agree with what you are saying....has it worked so far? No. If this is going to be your pattern on an ongoing basis, you AND FrankenBust would be better served to follow a different path that you feel would be more suitable to your beliefs. By all measurable standards you are not finding it here.
